Wisdom and Gifts Wisdom is knowing if you should accept help from people who offer it. Whether it is a gift or a favor or a service, help usually comes at a price. Be wary of people who offer to help you or give you something with no clear way for you to return the favor with something of equal value. Think about what that person really wants from you. There is always a motivating reason behind an offer of help. Some people want to get rid of excess belongings and don’t want to take the time to seek out a charity that could use it. Some people want to feel good about themselves and don’t want to spend the time on volunteer work or the money on financial donations to charities. Some people want your romantic affections. Some people want you to be socially indebted to them. Some people want to prove their worth to the world. Everyone in a society wants to feel valued. It is important to ensure the strength of social systems that allow people to contribute their talents to their s