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Wishful Thinking and False Rescue

Jan 14, 2018

Wishful Thinking and False Rescue

If you feel trapped and hope for someone to help you, be careful. Not all opportunities are good opportunities. They can turn out to be traps. When you feel desperate, it is difficult to see the potential problems that can result from a decision. Wishful thinking can be hard to resist.

But, you must carefully consider how your life will change if you choose to accept help from someone. Think about what you are willing to give that person and what that person expects from you. Sometimes, enduring the current arrangement is a better choice, because you can bring better things into your life if you keep working a little longer and keep to a long-term goal.

You create your own hope when you are your own leader. When you control your surroundings and follow a plan, you have more stability and feel more secure. Relying on other people’s success, money and blessings is tempting but can end having high personal costs.

Doing the hard work to make yourself the strongest person in your life is far more rewarding than relying on someone else. Do not be afraid of doing the work to better your life. Start small if you need to. Your view of yourself and your possibility of success will change very quickly once you achieve a small goal. Keep achieving small goals until you feel you can achieve a larger goal. You will become stronger and wiser if you work at your goal each day.


With renewed self-respect, a stronger body and more educated mind, you can stay hopeful and accomplish your goals. Forget the idea of an easy rescue. It is a false promise and a trap.

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