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Drama, Despair and Loneliness

12/6/2017

Drama


Drama is expressed emotion. Love, hate, fear, sorrow, anger, joy. It is not shameful to feel emotion and express it in a safe place. Drama can be good or bad in a relationship.  But, saying you “have no time for drama” indicates you are impatient and uncaring. It is important to remember that life is messy. You must invest time and communication to make a relationship truly valuable.

Despair


When you feel desperate, lonely or sad, keep healthy routines. Eat nutritious food, drink water, exercise, get enough sleep, let your mind rest by doing something fun. When you feel despair is the most important time to take care of yourself. Keep the mantra in your mind, “I must keep my body healthy. I must be responsible to meet my needs. I must forgive myself of my mistakes. I must take care of my mind.”

Loneliness


When you feel lonely, remember that you are never truly alone. There are always people who know you exist and care about you. Think about all the people you know or have met and reach out to them. It is hard to renew connections, but you must try. Be persistent. If one old friend does not return your attempts to re-connect, seek out another until you have enough people back in your life.
Connect to people using all your resources. Make phone calls, use social media, visit neighbors, write letters, take a gift of appreciation to someone you work with or host a party and invite acquaintances from your many walks of life.

Read! Read biographies, history or mysteries. Learn about how other people dealt with adversity. Learn about the past. Or, unravel a problem with a character from a mystery.

Play a game and sharpen your skills. Keep practicing until you excel at it. Then display those new skills to other people.


Learn a new craft or learn a language. Give your craft work to neighbors and co-workers. Find a person with which to practice your new language skills.

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