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Plans, Roles in Life and Friends

Dec. 27, 2017

Plans

Have contingency plans for all outcomes to an upcoming situation. Have one for the best cases scenario, a moderately successful scenario and an undesirable outcome. Be ready for them all.

If you are worried about the outcome of an event, make contingency plans for good, bad and in-between results. Then, do half an hour of exercise outside three hours before the event. You will get rid of your anxiety, you will have increased mental concentration, you will have fresh air and you will have time to get a new perspective on the situation. Be optimistic and ever-present during the event.

Optimism is envisioning the best possible outcome. Realism is being prepared for all outcomes and pessimism should be avoided completely.

Roles in Life

It is hard to accept a lesser position to that of what you dreamed of. In a world where we are told to follow our dreams and that we can be anything, we form lofty goals. Do not give up on your goals, but find ways to take care of yourself and meet your immediate needs. Do not feel sorry for yourself, but rather embrace the roll and do a good job. Master it and build on your success. So that you make one more step up in the stairway to your dreams.

Sometimes making a compromise to meet your needs can be in the form of a servant to your community or a helper to someone you meet who needs help. Find ways to help people who are hurting inside. You will often form mutually beneficial bonds. Those people will remember you for a lifetime for the compassion and friendship you showed and for the experience and knowledge you shared with each other. The arrangement does not have to last forever if you decide later that it is time to move on. Be brave in following what is right for you. Do not shrink away from the difficult task of distancing yourself from a friend if you think it is best. Handle the feelings of your friend thoughtfully and stay in occasional contact over the years. They will remember you treated them respectfully.

Friends

It is not shameful to ask for help.

Sometimes, knowing how to accept a gift graciously is a valuable skill.

It is the wisdom that you learn from friends that is the most valuable gift they can give.
If you are lonely and waiting for a spouse, do good things in the lives of the people around you.

Friends will come and friends will go, in the shifting sands of time. Learn wisdom from each one you meet to keep your life sublime.


If you live somewhere long enough, you will find that you have walked many paths in many shoes both literally and figuratively.

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