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12/7/2017

Love

Women and men, do not be the paramour of a married man or woman. There are many single people in the world and you will find one who is right for you to marry. Marriage is sacred. It is an agreement that two people will stay together as partners.
Do not cheapen yourself by being a subordinate lover to someone. Do not cheapen your respect for the object of your affection by driving him or her to take on a paramour. Do not cheapen the love and heartache you feel by turning it into lust. If the object of your affection truly is a worthy match to you, the friendship and connection you share can manifest in non-sexual ways later in life.

Separate yourself from your temptation. God will help you find a worthy and available spouse. Find appropriate people and resources to build your life in an upright way. Time heals all wounds. It calms all desires. Given enough time, it can end jealousy because eventually the situation becomes irrelevant to your life. Time helps people to forgive.

If you cross paths with the former object of your desire later in life, you can be platonic friends who share mutual respect. Because, authentic love can be present in many forms. True love does not cheapen a relationship of any kind.

Love is not only romantic, but also fraternal and parental. Love is present between a parent and child. Love is present when a teacher cares about a student. Love is present in a close friendship. Love is present among siblings. Love is present between a doctor and patient. Love is present when a band of soldiers fight and die beside each other.

Love develops through shared experiences and shared sacrifice. Love is not lust. Sex does not carry a marriage. A deep friendship with shared experiences and hard work toward a common goal carries a marriage.

Love of your fellow beings is what keeps the world going and gives it hope. Love drives kindness and compassion. A message of love can transform a world. It can pull people out of a war.

Love can drive people to do unexpected things. Love can be a motivator. Take care that you are motivated to do only upright behaviors. Find a way to end the temptation if you are motivated to do wrongful actions. Be forgiving of those around you who are driven by love and help them to make the right choices.


If you love someone and those feelings are not reciprocated, talk out your feelings with a close friend and find a way to work through your disappointment. Passion eventually fades. If you are lovesick, use that energy to improve yourself. Study, exercise or work. Put that energy into something productive. You will become a stronger and more appealing person for your efforts. Above all, when you deal with love, remember to respect yourself.

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