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Fearless on All Fronts

12/5/2017

Be Fearless When Communicating With People


Be brave and attempt to make a connection with people. Misunderstandings should be talked through with both friends and enemies. Friendships are made stronger with open communication and wars can be prevented or delayed when you attempt to understand your opponents.

Fear and insecurity is what drives hatred. Fear of sharing resources, fear of the unknown or fear of an opponent’s strength can drive conflict. You must attempt fearless communication to understand your opponent’s reasons for thinking as they do. If it is unwise to attempt communication alone, take a friend or delegation of people to negotiate.

If you are unmarried and you like another unmarried person strongly, fearlessly tell that person how you feel. Do not let yourself be shy. Your mind will be healthier for letting your feelings known. The pain of keeping a love hidden is just as painful as rejection. The chances are high that the person you love will be flattered by your attention, even if that person does not reciprocate your feelings.

It is the responsibility of a community to allow for open debate on an issue before laws are made. This ensures leaders and community members understand all sides of an issue and how the proposed law will affect everyone. Do not fear that your proposal will be struck down. An idea with merit is made better with other people's input and a shared sense of ownership.

When you are afraid or feeling insecure, it is easy to project your feelings onto other people. It is easy to think those people are doing something out of spite or hatred against you. Do not submit to that tendency. Be fearless and try to see the situation from their point of view. Try to have faith that their rude behavior is not out of hatred but due to their lack of concern for your plight and a preoccupation with their own problems. Speak up and clearly state your needs. Persistently repeat your needs until they accommodate them or you learn that they can’t help you. If they can’t help, leave them and find someone who can help.


When you are in your community and you are advocating for your needs, remember a smile can defuse a tense encounter. Stay calm, do not fear punishment if you can’t get something accomplished in a timely manner and keep a courteous tone of voice as you negotiate with people to get your needs met.

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